So that was a long two weeks. I have been "not myself" to say the least. I have been doing a lot of moping lately (and therefore a lot of thinking) and I have had to face up to some unpleasant facts. Unfortunately for you reading this, that means no pictures in this post. To make matters worse, I have replaced the space normally allotted for photos with some dreadful and tedious introspection. You've been warned.
1) It has really really hit me lately that I am not having any more children. I am so very thankful for the two I have and that they are happy and healthy and so smart and fun and in a way that makes things even worse, you know? Noah will be two in just over a month and my brain is exploding with disbelief. Ethan will be FOUR at the end of September. I can still remember my pregnancy with him so vividly it is like it just happened yesterday. But this happens. The challenge for me right now is to not let myself get so wrapped up thinking about that "one more baby" I'm never having that I miss out on the amazing things my beautiful sons are doing right now.
2) My business. What can I say? It was an exciting thing when I started because I love making soap and hand balm and I had big plans for lotions, salts, sugar scrubs, lip balms and maybe a few other things and you know what? I'm not actually allowed to sell anything but the soap according to the FDA. Unless of course I spend great gobs of money to prove that my products are not going to eat away at your flesh or kill you in any way.
You know what else? I don't have it in me right now. I started an LLC because I had big plans and tons of enthusiasm and a goal of opening an actual retail location. In Scranton. And then we moved.
Not that I am not happy here. On the contrary, I am so grateful to be back in farm country and so glad we were able to buy a house. It's just that now I was starting from scratch again but this time it felt like more of a burden. I feel like I can never find time to make soap (or anything else for that matter) and I am realizing that I no longer try to make time. My children require more of me than I could give them if I were trying to aggressively grow a business right now and when push comes to shove, I choose my family. I plan to continue making and selling things, but with the intention of being a hobbyist who makes a few bucks off of her wares, not an entrepreneur.
3) Very much related to all that is the fact that I am not earning an income. I am a stay at home mom right now, and we get by, but we could be so much more comfortable if I were to earn some money.
Many moons ago, I started an online certificate program in medical billing and I now intend to complete that in the next few months and try to work from home. Computer work is something I can do with the children awake and right next to me, as opposed to soap making which cannot happen with little ones nearby for so many obvious reasons...
Another factor in my renewed interest in completing the program is that before too long, I will have to re-enter the work force. With Ethan only a year away from kindergarten and Noah only two years behind him, this will happening rather soon. And without this measly certificate, I will have nothing to help me get a job. I never finished college and I have no special training. For all my hobbies and jack-of-all-trade tendencies, I am still a person with no realistically marketable skills. I have had enough retail and waitressing jobs in my life thus far to tide me over for a good many years, thank you, so I am looking to avoid positions like those at all costs.
Having said all this, I actually feel a lot better. I like getting things off my chest and while I try not to do that
too much here, I needed that.
Now here are some positive things.
The past few days have been much better. I have been feeling like I have come to terms with my little quandries and I am ready to get back up and do things again. Freeing myself of the business obligation will allow me to enjoy my other hobbies again. (Oh sewing machine! How I have missed you! Knitting? What's that?)
Yardwork has been plentiful and very therapeutic. There is honestly nothing I would rather do than dig in the dirt and plant things and watch the magic happen. There is a doozy of a post coming with some really crappy pictures of the raised garden bed I built and THEN the compost bin I am still building out of all free materials. Bonus!
But mostly, I owe the biggest thanks to my amazing friends. So many people on Ravelry and Facebook have been around at just the right times to lend an ear or just keep me company when I needed it the most and I am so thankful for all of you.
If you've made it this far, thanks for listening. If you skipped to the end and are now holding out for a picture post, I don't blame you one bit. I promise to get one up very soon. :)